It may seem like the scariest thing in the world to do, but cancelling a wedding if you have serious doubts and concerns about it, is certainly the right thing to do. It will be one of the hardest things you’ll have to do in your whole life and you will feel ashamed and embarrassed, not to mention scared of how your partner and family will react. But it’s best to get out now before you have a house and three kids to worry about as well. Not to mention years of unhappiness.  

It’s normal to get cold feet, so if you think you may just have cold feet, give it some time and see how you go. On the other hand however, if you feel scared and sick about your impending marriage and have sought advice from therapists and close friends about your feelingsand you know 100 per cent that you can not go through with it, stick to your guns and inform your partner of your decision.

If you have set a date and sent out invitations you will need to notify your guests as soon as possible about the cancellation, some people will want to know why it’s been cancelled so just let them know it was a mutual decision not to get married at this particular point in time. If you have already paid deposits and booked a venue you of course should notify all the suppliers and vendors, sure you probably won’t get your deposits back but it’s a small price to pay in the grand scheme of things. And you can always use those Wedding Lanterns you purchased for the big day for another event like someone’s birthday.

So what do you do with the engagement ring if the wedding is called off? It depends on cancelled the wedding, if the giver of the ring cancels the wedding, then the receiver may opt to keep it, sell it, or return it. However if the receiver of the ring is the one to call off the wedding, it should go back to the giver. If you purchased the ring together then you should make a decision together as to what you want to do with it, along with anything else you may have bought during your time as a couple. If the ring was a family heirloom it must go back to the person who’s family it came from no matter who called it off.